It all started when…
“Because I’m gay.” That Sunday night in 2013, our 17 year old son had answered my question with this simple statement that shook our whole world. I hadn’t expected that answer, but I also wasn’t totally surprised. As parents we’d wondered if that were the case, but we hadn’t spent any time thinking about what it would be like to hear those words -- to know that about our son.
We knew we loved him – perhaps even more now that we knew this huge secret he had kept for so long. That assurance washed over us. At the same time, we felt an even stronger assurance that God loved him – loved him for who he was.
So, we knew we loved him, but we didn’t know where to go from there. We didn’t know anyone to talk to about this. We didn’t have any role models to help us see beyond where we were.
Then quite surprisingly, there was a fireside at a home in Los Altos with two mothers with gay sons and an active gay man who spoke. This fireside opened our eyes to some of the possibilities for our son and for us. It helped us to navigate the rest of high school.
After our son had gone off to college, we started thinking about what we could do to help create a more loving and inclusive atmosphere within the Church and how we could help other parents like us. Remembering that fireside in Los Altos and how helpful that had been, we deicided to hold a fireside ourselves. We’d invite a couple of people to speak and put the word out through people we knew and local leaders of the Church. We had no idea what that would turn into.
March 9, 2015 we had the first fireside. 118 people squeezed into our home that night filling it with love and the spirit. It was a powerful evening that touched many hearts. There were church leaders sitting next to people who hadn’t been inside the church for years. The rainbow of diversity was fully represented. We learned from one another and felt of each other’s spirit and love.
It was a remarkable evening that began a series of mostly monthly firesides that came to be known as The Hearth. We stand at the intersection of LDS and LGBTQ reaching out with a firm loving grip holding onto both.
“Because I’m gay.” That simple statement set us on this amazing spiritual journey of coming to know that God loves ALL of His children. He knows them and loves them the way they are. All are alike unto God. All are welcome to sit by the Hearth and feel the love.
"To my small Hearth His fire came
And all my House aglow
Did fan and rock, with sudden Light."
“How can our minds and bodies be grateful enough that we have spent,
Here in this generous room, this evening of content?
Each one of us has walked through storm and fled the wolves along the road;
But here the hearth is wide and warm.”